Daniel Pink has a new gem out, entitled "Drive". It's subtitle is quite accurate: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us. I bought this book when it first came out last December, but didn't actually sit down to read it until last month. I wish I had read it sooner, because I've changed course in life because of his message.
Pink's premise is that the "carrot and stick" guide to motivating people (employees, children, even your friends) isn't very effective in the long run-it just motivates people to do enough to follow the rules. Rather, he lays out an entire premise to help people find their own motivations, as summarized in his "Cocktail Party Summary":
Pink writes:
Science shows us they way [to motivate]. This approach has three essential elements:
1. Autonomy--the desire to direct our own lives;
2. Mastery--the urge to get better and better at something that matters
3. Purpose--the yearning to do what we do in the service of something larger than ourselves.
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Stop and think about that-we all want to matter, to have a purpose here on earth. Some would say that this is where spiritual guidance comes in, but my approach is completely secular. By stopping to think what we are really, really good at, and then using that skill to contribute to the world at large, we find purpose, and ultimately, some semblance of happiness.
I heard a story yesterday on NPR about soldiers returning from their tours in the middle east to find themselves lost in civilian world. The theory they discussed was that everything was very clear and structured about what is expected of soldier, and none of that structure is in place back at home. No doubt that lack of clear direction is the cause for some unhappiness with returning soldiers. But I think it also matters that their higher purpose (to keep their fellow soliders safe, to protect the interests of their country, to save lives) is lost when forced to sit in an anonymous cubicle somewhere and sit on the computer all day or ring items up with a pleasant smile at some super chain in a generic strip mall somewhere. What if they could find a way to save lives again-not on the front lines, but in other capacities (an ambulance medic, a suicide hotline, safety inspector) and drive happiness from this new role?
Simon Cowell mentioned on Oprah this week that he was bored with American Idol. And yet, he's pursuing another show, X-Factor, because “I like the buzz it creates. You want to be part of something people are talking about. I love that feeling.” Even Simon Cowell wants to have purpose and meaning.
So, across all sectors of post modern society, individuals want more purpose. As a financial advisor, a deeply impactful role you could have is to help individual focus on that greater purpose and motivation. Then the volatility in the market, while regrettable, won't be such a primary focus of every meeting and conversation. Instead, think about the bigger inspirations you could be making.
Have you had that conversation with your client? Have you asked them, "What is it that you are really good at, and how have you used that skill to contribute back to your family, your community, your society?"
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